chapter 16: Fasting

Chapter Sixteen

Fasting

OK, so let’s think about this in a stepwise fashion. If it’s true that man cannot serve two masters (as evidenced in the Gospel this past Sunday), then it follows that there is no gray area in belief. I either believe or I don’t believe in God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. I either choose to do God’s will or I do not. If I choose to believe in God, then every action and choice I make either brings me closer to him or further away. Again, there is no gray area here. So my spiritual life, then, is subject to incremental movement both closer to and further away from God - a direct result of every choice and action I take.

Spiritual growth is dynamic. It either is on the increase or the decrease. There is no stagnation or steady state in spiritual development. The choices I make either strengthen my spiritual growth or stunt it. There are no neutral positions.

And when we choose to sin, the effect on our soul is lasting – even after we receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation. We must engage in penance of some sort to reverse the effects of sin on our souls. While prayer is essential, sometimes something more is needed.

A most simple and potent vitamin or supplement that we can employ in the growing and strengthening of our spiritual life is the practice of fasting. Fasting helps restore the soul to its intended beauty and resist the tendency toward sinful motives or actions. It can even decrease our appetite for sin in the future. If there is a question in my life --- fast and ask God to guide me. He will. If I have a persistent sin, a habitual sin, one that I know of that I cannot shake or root out of my life ---- fast, prayerfully fast. With humility and trembling, fast. Jesus, Himself, explained that some demons can only be cast out with prayer and fasting. “Fasting is radically counter-cultural, but so is true Christianity.”

As with prayer and almsgiving, fasting is a spiritual exercise. It is done with humility, in secret, with the assurance that God will discern our true poverty and provide all that we need.

As a spiritual exercise, fasting tames the body so that the soul may reign. Prayer alone cannot achieve this nor can an act of human will or works of charity. This taming of the flesh is a task for fasting (and other acts of penance). In a perfect world, fasting and other penance would be part of everyday life. It would be in the smallest of things done with great love. It would not be in anything performed out of a ritualistic superstition or out of legalistic motives. Fasting is something nobody notices. It’s a habit in that it becomes an attitude, a way of daily life. I love coffee, so I with intent switch to tea every once in a while. I don’t enjoy getting caught on the phone with a neighbor, but I make a point of calling her when I’m sitting in carpool line at school. My grandmother is no longer in her right mind but I go and visit her and hold her hand or brush her hair even though I don’t really have the time. You get it. And if things are in crisis mode, I don’t eat from sun-up to sun-down. Every time I begin to stress and worry about said crisis, I feel the hunger in my stomach and I’m reminded to pray.

Fasting – it’s the new “Ensure” for the soul.

In His Grip,

Francis of A

Chapter 15 The Bible

There were a lot of things that disturbed my faith and led me home to Rome. Birth Control, Divorce, Authority, Apostolic Succession, and the Bible. I can not believe I was a protestant for 45 years and never asked my self “Where did the Bible come from?” (page 204). What a shock to learn that the Catholic didn’t add books to the Bible.

I am reminded of the old preacher who said he believed every word of the Bible from Genesis to the book of maps. But what about the table of contents? Where did the table of contents come from? Kelly gives us some great ammo in pages 206-208. My personal favorite is the whole Sola-scriptura (The Bible alone). This is self refuting as it is not found in the Bible. 1^st Timothy 3:15 say the Church is the pillar and foundation of the truth. The Church gave us the Bible (not the other way around). The Church has the sole right to interpret (page 208) Peter said that scripture is not given for private interpretation (2^nd Peter 1:20) and even warned (3:16) ..hard to be understood, which the unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, to there own destruction”. So much for perspicuity. Who wants to be Pope? We have over 30,000 Christian Church that claim to teach the Bible alone. I mean how many views of Church Government, Baptism, The Lord’s Supper, or views are there. Can they all be right? Remember “There is one body and one Spirit, just as also you were called in one hope of your calling; one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all who is over all and through all and in all.

Kelly touches on some great prophesies fulfilled by Jesus (pages 210) Here are some more:

SUBJECT	OT Prophecy	NT Fulfillment
As the Son of God	Ps 2:7	Lu 1:32,35
As the seed of the woman	Ge 3:15	Ga 4:4
As the seed of Abraham	Ge 17:7 22:18	Ga 3:16
As the seed of Isaac	Ge 21:12	Heb 11:17-19
As the seed of David	Ps 132:11 Jer 23:5	Ac 13:23 Ro 1:3
His coming at a set time	Ge 49:10 Da 9:24,25	Lu 2:1
His being born of a virgin	Isa 7:14	Mt 1:22,23 Lu 2:7
His being called Immanuel	Isa 7:14	Mt 1:22,23
His being born in Bethlehem of Judea	Mic 5:2	Mt 2:1 Lu 2:4-6
Great persons coming to adore him	Ps 72:10	Mt 2:1-11
The slaying of the children of Bethlehem	Jer 31:15	Mt 2:16-18
His being called out of Egypt	Ho 11:1	Mt 2:15
His being preceded by John the Baptist	Isa 40:3 Mal 3:1	Mt 3:1,3 Lu 1:17
His being anointed with the Spirit	Ps 45:7 Isa 11:2 61:1	Mt 3:16 Joh 3:34 Ac 10:38
His being a Prophet like to Moses	De 18:15-18	Ac 3:20-22
His being a Priest after the order of Melchizedek	Ps 110:4	Heb 5:5,6
His entering on his public ministry	Isa 61:1,2	Lu 4:16-21,43
His ministry commencing in Galilee	Isa 9:1,2	Mt 4:12-16,23
His entering publicly into Jerusalem	Zec 9:9	Mt 21:1-5
His coming into the temple	Hag 2:7,9 Mal 3:1	Mt 21:12 Lu 2:27-32 Joh 2:13-16
His poverty	Isa 53:2	Mr 6:3 Lu 9:58
His meekness and want of ostentatious	Isa 42:2	Mt 12:15,16,19
His tenderness and compassion	Isa 40:11 42:3	Mt 12:15,20 Heb 4:15
His being without guile	Isa 53:9	1Pe 2:22
His zeal	Ps 69:9	Joh 2:17
His preaching by parables	Ps 78:2	Mt 13:34,35
His working miracles	Isa 35:5,6	Mt 11:4-6 Joh 11:47
His bearing reproach	Ps 22:6 69:7,9,20	Ro 15:3
His being rejected by his brethren	Ps 69:8 Isa 63:3	Joh 1:11 7:3
His being a stone of stumbling to the Jews	Isa 8:14	Ro 9:32 1Pe 2:8
His being hated by the Jews	Ps 69:4 Isa 49:7	Joh 15:24,25
His being rejected by the Jewish rulers	Ps 118:22	Mt 21:42 Joh 7:48
That the Jews and Gentiles should combine against Him	Ps 2:1,2	Lu 23:12 Ac 4:27
His being betrayed by a friend	Ps 41:9 55:12-14	Joh 13:18,21
His disciples forsaking him	Zec 13:7	Mt 26:31,56
His being sold for thirty pieces silver	Zec 11:12	Mt 26:15
His price being given for the potter's field	Zec 11:13	Mt 27:7
The intensity of his sufferings	Ps 22:14,15	Lu 22:42,44
His sufferings being for others	Isa 53:4-6,12 Da 9:26	Mt 20:28
His patience and silence under suffering	Isa 53:7	Mt 26:63 27:12-14
His being smitten on the cheek	Mic 5:1	Mt 27:30
His visage being marred	Isa 52:14 53:3	Joh 19:5
His being spit on and scourged	Isa 50:6	Mr 14:65 Joh 19:1
His hands and feet being nailed to the cross	Ps 22:16	Joh 19:18 20:25
His being forsaken by God	Ps 22:1	Mt 27:46
His being mocked	Ps 22:7,8	Mt 27:39-44
Gall and vinegar being given him to drink	Ps 69:21	Mt 27:34
His garments being parted, and lots cast for his vesture	Ps 22:18	Mt 27:35
His being numbered with the transgressors	Isa 53:12	Mr 15:28
His intercession for His murderers	Isa 53:12	Lu 23:34
His Death	Isa 53:12	Mt 27:50
That a bone of him should not be broken	Ex 12:46 Ps 34:20	Joh 19:33,36
His being pierced	Zec 12:10	Joh 19:34,37
His being buried with the rich	Isa 53:9	Mt 27:57-60
His flesh not seeing corruption	Ps 16:10	Ac 2:31
His resurrection	Ps 16:10 Isa 26:19	Lu 24:6,31,34
His ascension	Ps 68:18	Lu 24:51 Ac 1:9
His sitting on the right hand of God	Ps 110:1	Heb 1:3
His exercising the priestly office in heaven	Zec 6:13	Ro 8:34
His being the chief corner-stone of the Church	Isa 28:16	1Pe 2:6,7
His being King in Zion	Ps 2:6	Lu 1:32 Joh 18:33-37
The conversion of the Gentiles to him	Isa 11:10 42:1	Mt 1:17,21 Joh 10:16 Ac 10:45,47
His righteous government	Ps 45:6,7	Joh 5:30 Re 19:11
His universal dominion	Ps 72:8 Da 7:14	Php 2:9,11
The perpetuity of his kingdom	Isa 9:7 Da 7:14	Lu 1:32,33

Kelly makes some great points about the power of the Word (pg 211). If we actually truly believed some of these points we would be changed. One of my favorite is Hebrews 4:12 “For the word of God is alive, and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart´

Yes the world of God is alive and breathing! The Word (Logos) is God himself (Jn1, Heb 1:1-3).

In the section “Stories” Kelly reminds us of the purpose of the written word which reminds me of 1^st Cor 10:6&11 Now these things were done in a figure of us…Now all of these things happen to them in figure: and they are written for our correction. Kelly refer to this as looking into a mirror and seeing our self. James says it best in James 1 But prove your selves doers of the word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks at his natural face in a mirror; for once he has looked at himself and gone away, he has immediately forgotten what kind of person he was. But one who looks intently at the perfect law, the law of liberty, and abides by it, not having become a forgetful hearer but an effectual doer, this man will be blessed in what he does.

On page 218 Kelly states “I often hear his call in the moments of the day. I find myself wandering from the path, and he calls to me, “Where are you” I pray you too can learn to hear his gentle voice in the circumstances of your daily life” One of the ways God speaks to us is through his word. The Psalmist said “Thy word have I hid in my heart that I may not sin against thee” God’s challenge to us is “Let not this book of the law depart from thy mouth: but thou shall meditate on it day and night, that thou may observe and do all the things that are written in it: then shall thou direct thy ways and understand it” Josh 1:8

Well I won’t comment on the “Dad, if you really love me story.. other then my son said it made no sense and my wife thought it could be a parable about the pearl of great price.

I would like to share one more of my favorite verses. It’s a 3:16 verse, Can you guess what it is?

All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work. (2^nd Tim)

Chapter 14 - The Mass

I had never attended mass before November 2009. My first experience was with my dear friend who showed me the way "home to Rome". I didn't really understand what was going on most of the time, but I was surprised by the things I did know -- the Apostle's creed, the Our Father, and some of the "old-time hymns" that cross denominational barriers. I had been studying some of the Jewish liturgy and it was intriguing to me to find out just how many of the Catholic rites are rooted in Judaism. It seemed like the deeper I dug in, the more layers I found, each more beautiful than the last.

As a convert, I think it is easier for me to have a deep appreciation for the mass than a cradle Catholic. It's kind of like the difference between being born in America and coming here from an oppressed or impoverished country. We truly take our freedoms and our wealth as a nation for granted as opposed to a refugee from Haiti or China who finds New York City the most amazing and magical place, appreciate freedom and liberty for what they truly are, and understand that with hard work and perseverance anything is possible in this country.

Mr. Kelly laments the cries often heard about church (and protestants say the same things). Here are some of his and some that I have heard myself over the years (modified to fit the current audience, of course): The service is too long. I never get anything out of the homily. It's too boring. The songs are too old. The songs are too new. They need more instruments. They should go back to organ music. The mass form is too dreary. The mass form is too contemporary. The priest hurt my feelings. The priest is too conservative. The priest is too liberal. The people there are not friendly. The people there are too friendly (bunch of fakers).

Or, as Mr. Kelly pointed out... perhaps most church-goers have missed the point altogether. The mass is not about me or you or the priest or the music, it's about our Savior, and being in His presence is NEVER a waste of time. For me, believing in the Real Presence in the Eucharist has been life changing. I am filled with awe and wonder every time the priest elevates the host and I hear the bells ring. I hear the words "This is the New Covenant in My blood" and my heart stirs within me knowing that I am finally part of that covenant! There have been times I wish I could prostrate myself before the host (I believe that may be a little too "charismatic" for my current parish; however, I did get that opportunity at Adoration once and it was amazing). Sometimes I think "I can't believe I believe Jesus becomes bread and wine!", but like another convert I know, I believe He became dust, so is it really that far of a stretch?

I think sometimes the excitement of new converts or returning Catholics who have fallen away is actually offensive to some (or maybe it's actually convicting?). It's as if they are thinking, "Yeah, they're all excited now, but just wait, in a year or two, they'll be dead like me." I encountered this attitude myself as a new convert. So many times when talking about ideas or passions, I heard things like, "No one around here would be interested in doing something that." or "People around here are just too busy to take on one more thing." or "You can try, but I don't think you'll get any response." or "We used to do that, but we don't anymore, there just wasn't any interest."

So negative. So apathetic. So boring. So defeated. Just how our enemy likes us to be. Ouch.

So how does one stay excited about going to mass?

My husband and I have been married almost 15 years. There are days when married life is not very exciting and days when it is. I believe that staying in love with the Eucharist is the same as staying in love with your spouse. I could be married to my husband for 100 years and still not delve all the depths of his thoughts or emotions, and yet even today, I can finish his sentences for him because I know him intimately (and vice versa). The subtle nuances and meanings behind every prayer, every gesture, every scripture in the mass could take a lifetime to explore, and yet, we could go to a foreign country and still worship with our brothers and sisters because we know the mass intimately. It takes effort, it takes commitment, and it takes time. Instant gratification is not a gift of the Holy Spirit, no matter how much we wish it was.

I had read, some years back, about how, in the most intimate relationship between a husband and wife, the "seed" from the man is eventually absorbed into the bones of the woman through her uterus, thus providing her with nutrients she needs to prevent bone loss, releasing certain hormones to combat depression, and even preventing cancer... and in turn, she ends up absorbing his pieces of his DNA... literally becoming "bone of [his] bone and flesh of [his] flesh". (Ever wondered why happy old couples look so much alike?) You may be wondering, "What has that got to do with the mass?" Well, consider this... by our belief in the Real Presence in the Eucharist, and by taking our Savior's flesh and blood intimately into our body where it is absorbed and metabolized, in like fashion, we too can transform quite literally in His likeness by absorbing His DNA every week.

Let that sink in a minute.

If Christ can quite literally become a part of you through the intimacy of the Eucharist, what things in your life have the power to prevent you from moving heaven and earth to get to mass and your Savior every week? Would you treat being with your spouse with the attitude as you approach being at the mass? Would you come to the marriage bed with the same attitude as you have when coming to mass?

To hear complaining about not getting anything out of mass reminds me of what my grandmother used to say at her heavy-laden dinner table, "If you don't get enough to eat, it's your own fault!" We receive Jesus in the flesh at every mass!! How can we NOT get something out of it!

As Mr. Kelly says, the mass is a gift... we should embrace it with gusto. So, what's REALLY keeping you from being excited about the mass and being intimately connected your Savior?

I will leave you with some ponderings that touch on some of the other issues Mr. Kelly takes to task in this chapter:

• Funny how $20 looks so big when we take it to church and so small when we take it to the store.
• Funny how long an hour or two in church seems and how short those same 60 to 120 minutes are when spent playing golf, eating out at a fine restaurant, or watching a movie.
  
• Funny how difficult it is to read a chapter in the Bible and how easy it is to read 500 pages of a best selling novel.
• Funny how we believe what newspapers say but question what the Bible says.
• Funny how we can't think of anything to say when we pray and don't have any difficulty thinking of things to talk about to a friend.
• Funny how we need 2 or 3 weeks to fit a church event into our schedule, but can adjust it for a social event at the last minute.
  Funny, isn't it?

Blessings,
St. Frances of Rome

Chapter 13: Contemplation

In this chapter, Kelly explores his second pillar of Catholic spirituality: contemplation. It might have been entitled "Contemplation and Prayer," but I like the emphasis on contemplation (and quiet) as a starting point. "Be still and know that I am God" - Psalm 46. With reference to the Catholic aspect of this pillar, we have an especially rich tradition in this area, with the examples set by many saints, monastics and popes. (Pope John Paul II began each day at 0530 with over an hour of private prayer).
Kelly's first important theme in the chapter is "thought determines action." In order to live a "Christ-centered life" we have to put Christ and "the Good" in the center of our thoughts, as outlined by the quotation from Philippians. As these are not the typical things we're bombarded with each day in our culture, what can help us focus our thoughts? "The Classroom of Silence." I agree with Kelly that this silence is crucial to our spiritual life. He makes two promises: that in the silence we'll find God and ourselves. Importantly, though, he emphasizes that these discoveries will not be epiphanies. It will be a gradual process that takes discipline and work.
The problem of NOISE in our lives is so difficult, and it really does not allow us to hear the voice of God. I loved the quote from Screwtape - "we will make the whole universe a noise in the end." Our "inner noise" is as much a problem, though, as the external noise of our culture, and this is especially true for me. Much of the inner noise (duties, tasks, figuring out my responsibilities as a Catholic citizen in the political and cultural battles) has its importance, but must be regularly set aside for quiet listening to God.
Kelly suggests a starting point to try and do this - his "ten minutes a day."
(His CD "A Call To Joy" is the very entertaining story of his spiritual journey that started in this way.) I sort of do this at home each morning, but would like to do it as he suggests in a quiet church. I envision the big cathedral that's always open. What time does OLM open its doors in the AM? There is a chapel at Memorial Hospital that I may try. His comments on the role of Eucharistic Adoration are appreciated.
From this starting point, Kelly says that we can then begin to answer the big question of the mission that God has chosen for us, of finding our holy vocation for which we were created. He then talks of the problems of "action without prayer." Our works must have as their foundation the TRUTH of the incarnation, death and resurrection of Christ, and seeing Christ in those around us. We keep this focus, and gain our strength, through constant prayer. "The measure of your life will be the measure of your prayer."
To close, I will quote from what my daughter's fourth grade class had to learn just this past week (she doesn't remember the author): "Watch your thoughts, they become words; watch your words, they become actions; watch your actions, they become habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny."
- John Paul

Chapter 12 Lost Without a Plan

Now we're getting into the meat of the book. As a relativly new Catholic I admit that my protestant background influenced me into thinking that asking forgiveness from God, bypassing the priest seemed logical and acceptable. In order to grow closer to God it's necessary to examine and acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses. Confession as my good friend continues to tell me is one of the forgotten sacraments. It's not a sign of weakness but strength when we come to confession. The author likens regular confession to washing your car. (Mine's dirty) The less you wash your car the greater the tendency to let it become a wastebasket for trash. After a while you don't even notice that it is a mess.

We all are sinners. We all are lost without a plan. How can we change direction or become the "best version of myself"? Kelly suggests that "reconciliation is the perfect spiritual tool to re-ignite our passion for excellence in the spiritual life".

William

Chapter 12 The Beauty of Confession

The first time I heard Matthew speak on the Pillars of Catholic Spirituality, it surprised me that Confession was the first one. The more I think about it, the more I understand why.

Many doctrines and disciplines separate Catholics from Protestants in the practice of faith, but this one is huge. It’s a rare convert who doesn’t have a bit of anxiety about confessing sins to another living, breathing person, even when he sits in the place of Christ. It is a lot more comfortable simply to visit one’s sins in one’s own mind and ask forgiveness of a real but unseen Christ. I found when I went to confession for the first time that the very act of pronouncing my sins out loud, so I could hear my own voice accusing my own self, was powerful. Once said, there’s no escaping the reality of what I have done. Once said to another, there’s no way I can ever deny I did them.

But oh! The relief—the joy—when I first heard the words of absolution. To this day, I am anxious when I go to confession, and that feeling would be enough to keep me out of the confessional if it were all I experienced. But it isn’t. I unload my burdens and I hear them taken away. If the anxiety before confession might keep me away, the grace of the sacrament received, which is real and palpable, keeps me coming back.

Confession is the natural bookend to Communion, to receiving the Eucharistic Lord into our lives. In earlier times, the Church emphasized this in discipline and lines for confession were long every week. After Vatican II, when the discipline was left to the faithful in the pew, we succumbed to the “I’m OK-You’re OK” mood of the times and confession became the forgotten sacrament. I think it is time to reclaim our patrimony and enter fully into the graces that confession provides. If we, the faithful, begin to go to confession, great things will happen…. in us, and in our parishes.

Confession is so mysterious to a convert! I remember wishing I could tag along and watch someone else go through it so I would know what to do. That, of course, is impossible, just as it will be impossible for me to watch anyone go through the particular judgment before I go through it myself.

One wise confessor once told me that confession should be entered joyfully (not happily—that is something different) because it is an opportunity to rehearse the time we will stand before Christ without the priest as intermediary. Modern man tends to forget—the last things are real: death, judgment, heaven and hell. And because they are, Christ instituted the sacrament of reconciliation to help us through by preparing us on earth, and giving us the grace to repent, return, revive and move closer to the person God intends us to be by seeing where we have fallen short and asking help in renewing our lives.

Most of us go to confession too infrequently—certainly I do, and it’s often because I don’t have a good sense of the ways in which I am out of step with God’s will in my life. Not having a real sense of where I fall short has a way of making confession difficult…

It took me a while to develop the habit of regular examination of conscience. Some of the great saints performed this twice a day—I am lucky to get to it twice a week. But when I do, it recollects me and focuses me on where I can grow in my relationship with God. Far from making me a neurotic mess, it has begun to allow me to see clearly where God is still working on my life.

Over the years, I’ve encountered a few tips about confession, which I will share:

(1) Understand that the seriousness of the sin is not in what we do, it is in Whom we offend. There’s a real tendency to rationalize our common sins as not significant (“God won’t mind if I sleep in and miss mass just this one Sunday…”), but the reality is—that’s often what it is. Rationalization. Be clear minded, and go to confession when you need to. Keep this in mind—all of the most recent popes have gone to confession at least every other week…….we under-utilize this powerful sacrament to change our lives. Many modern advisors (Kelly included) suggest that monthly confession is something of a minimum. (For the record, I am not there yet…)

(2) Understand that without involvement of the will, there is no sin. Not everything we do that is wrong is a sin….sometimes we just “blow it” in good faith. God helps with both, of course, but the essence of sin is setting our will against God’s.

(3) Don’t rationalize and don’t ramble. It’s enough to name my sins without explaining how or why I was involved in them. Most of the time, that’s rationalization again. It’s an amazingly liberating (though very difficult) thing to simply state “I accuse myself of blasphemy…or anger against my husband…or theft…or lying…” without trying to make it look better than it is….God knows the details; He has the videotape.

(4) Don’t turn confession into a counseling session. Confess sins, listen to the priest’s counsel, make a good act of contrition (memorize one) receive absolution and leave to do the prescribed penance as promptly and devoutly as possible. Sometimes the discipline of listening to counsel without giving in to the urge to comment is not only good discipline, it is spiritual growth.

(5) Consider developing a relationship with a regular confessor. That can help address the areas that chronically affect spiritual life. Different confessors have different styles and I have found it’s ok to find someone whose style works well with my own. And when I encounter one of those rare priests who are curt or abrasive or unsympathetic (ask any cradle about tough confessors—there are stories!), I offer a prayer for him, do my penance and I do NOT let the experience keep me away from Christ in the confessional. I try to remain centered on meeting Christ, not on the accidentals of the experience…

(6) Take advantage of travel. Confessing to a priest I will never encounter again is sometimes easier on the nerves. It also provides an opportunity to add a sacred moment to travels. I also take advantage of travel to go to mass in different parishes, Sundays and sometimes during the week, a practice that has much enhanced my appreciation of the mass. For the record, it’s made me both more tolerant of different styles of worship and more appreciative of the great diversity of my Church.

(7) Before confession, I recollect myself before the Blessed Sacrament. I go early and just sit with Jesus for a while. When I examine my conscience before the Lord, I find He gently leads me where I need to go. When I ask God to reveal to me my sins, He does, and then He helps me turn away from them. Not instantly, but with time and with work…

(8) Especially if you have a regular confessor, consider the particular examination of conscience of St. Ignaitus. This emphasizes the life-changing potential of confession, the metanoia, formation of a new mind that should be the result of the sacrament. Because it focuses on the things that separate one from God, rather than a juridical “ticking off” of sins, it is a powerful, powerful practice.

(9) Make confession a family affair. Nothing helps children understand the importance of confession more than seeing their parents go. And the same is true between husband and wife.

In His Service--Martha

Chapter 11: Who will be next

Chapter 11

Who Will Be Next?

Chapter Eleven contains a particularly challenging essay on the subject of who gets chosen next by God the Creator of the Universe to be used in His Plan for our fallen world.
It is bothersome because it implies that any of us might be chosen for His work in this fallen culture of death we live in. It presupposes that any one of us might be fingered to be sacrificed up, martyred, or in some way at the very least inconvenienced in carrying out His will—Heaven forbid it be me or someone I love. Could be costly. Could be dirty. Could be painful. How could it possibly be a joy?
But if not me, then who? If not my child, then whose children? Mr. Kelly offers up the idea that whatever is going to happen, it will happen with or without us. It is clear from Scripture that God wishes His plan to unfold WITH us, our hearts, our minds, our wills. But as free will denotes, that is our choice.
So, Mr. Kelly wonders, what are we willing to give our life for? What is it that makes us get out of bed each morning and begin a new day? What is it that we are willing to define our lives by?
We have been given finite time on this beautiful earth. What are we going to do with it? When our life is over, what regrets will we hold? Are our lives worth giving over to some greater cause—some cause that is bigger than any one of us? We are fast approaching the ninth anniversary of September 11th, and I defy any one to remember that day. I defy you to remember the men and women on American Flight #486 without thinking that, given the same situation, we would have the courage and virtue necessary to make the same choices those brave and honorable people made.
We must rise to the occasion whenever possible and the occasion is NOW. We are at a turning point in human history. The modern western culture is declining. We must rise up ourselves to shepherd in a new era. Where do we start?
We must embrace our Catholic Christianity. We must not exist within a lifeless set of rules and regulations. Catholicism is a vibrant way of life. To be truly Catholic, we are called first to holiness and second to express our joy and hopes by both example and stories. We must become story-tellers. We must tell the stories of our lives, our choices and the lives and choices of our families. We must tell how we love. We must tell how choose to live in love. We must tell the stories of our saints. We must tell how even in adversity we do not fear because the Lord God Creator of the Universe is the source of our life, our love, our author who writes our stories with in His love for the Son.

In His grip,
F of A